Incels, involuntary celibates, define themselves based on the inability to secure (consensual) sexual intercourse with women. Hence, the predictable response from most people (revealing a misunderstanding of the core issue) boils down to “just fuck prostitutes, bro”.
This does nothing to solve the incel’s plight, because lack of sex is not the incel’s fundamental problem, it’s just a symptom. Or rather, the symptom. The incel doesn’t just crave sex, he craves everything that sex stands for. Most importantly, the feeling of being desired. The validation that one is desirable, that some other person wants you. Some of you may note that this is a distinctly feminine need: to be desired is the woman’s prerogative, the man must content himself with being free to express his desire. And this brings us to the incel’s core issue. The incel, despite all his supposed redpilling and blackpilling on female nature, has internalized the societal imperative that one must be desirable to women in order to earn the right to express his desire for them.
This should not be a surprise, given modern society’s pedestalization of women and obsession with consent and its fundamentally arcane and everchanging nature. Unwanted advances toward women are sexual harassment, kissing her is rape, looking at her is rape and rapists are the worst of the worst. The incel, exhibiting Kaczinsky’s oversocialization, internalizes this idea that men must first be desirable to women before their own desire is justified. Because perceived desirability is a function of positive experiences with women, something that an incel by definition lacks, he is trapped in a negative feedback loop. He craves the feeling of desirability in order to feel justified in expressing his own desire, but because he doesn’t express his own desire, he doesn’t create situations that give rise to positive interactions with women. In a more abstract sense, incels are “victims” (I abhor this word, because its very leftist in nature) of the gynocentric model of status distribution. In a gynocentric/matriarchal society status is awarded to men based on their desirability to women, therefore sexually unsuccessful men are low-status (matriarchy inevitably leads to a sex-obsessed society).
In any social system, a low status subject is forbidden from expressing desire for high-status objects and punished for doing so. One climbs the status hierarchy by claiming a higher-status object and getting away with it. Thus the sexually unsuccessful man (low status subject) instinctively feels that expressing desire for a woman (high status object) is a social transgression. His oversocialization, the same thing that made him low-status in the first place, prevents him from performing the social transgression that is needed to increase his status (by increasing his perceived desirability). The key problem is that women, regardless of method of status distribution, abhor needy men - those that base their self-worth (status) on their desirability to women. Chad doesn’t face this issue, because to him being desired by women is as natural as breathing. Just like we don’t preoccupy ourselves with our breathing (until it’s impaired), Chad doesn’t preoccupy himself with being desired by women. In a patriarchal social system, this is solved by assigning status to men based on their contribution to society - their performance at a societally important task. This lets men feel a sense of self-worth irrespective of their interactions with women, thus freeing them to desire women without a sense of guilt. Additionally, the lack of consent-hysteria allows them to also express desire towards women.
That most incels are avid porn consumers is no coincidence. Porn is a solo-act: the only context where a man is free to express his desire without being judged by his object of desire and the society he is a part of. The first step to curing inceldom is realising you have a right to desire. The second is picking up some weights.